So today is Valentine’s Day, but I’m not about to launch into one of those speeches about the joys of being single. In fact, I have a boyfriend. We’ve only dated for a month, though, and so I thought instead of gushing about how great he is, I’d post a list of things guys should not do for their girlfriends on this “special day” after only dating for a month or otherwise newly dating.
1. Don’t introduce your girlfriend to your parents. After one month, where my boyfriend and I are still in that awkward phase of not knowing much about each other and yet somehow managing to not have much to talk about, it doesn’t help to have had more to talk about with my boyfriend’s dad upon meeting him than my boyfriend himself. Awkward.
2. Don’t buy expensive gifts. I got my boyfriend a small—again, small—teddy bear and a valentine’s day card that I made sure did not say the words “I love you” in succession. It’s too soon, especially considering how we haven’t said those words to each other in person. The last thing you want is for the card to say the words before you yourself do. Equally awkward to having that happen is getting a ton of expensive things as a gift from your boyfriend, because that in itself implies a level of seriousness that in my opinion is not fit for a one-month relationship. It implies commitment, you know, and even arrogance. And there’s nothing worse than what happened to me, where I gave my boyfriend the teddy bear and card—cheap but appropriate gifts—and you in turn receive a cash load of gifts. It shows that we each expect different levels of commitment in our relationship thus far and that we’re not on the same page.
3. Don’t go to dinner. It’s too expensive for a one-month date, and you’ll be surrounded by really, and I mean really, serious couples. You’ll feel out of place in a restaurant with your date on valentine’s day surrounded by lovey-dovey married couples celebrating, I assure you. There’s a difference between how married couples and new couples should be celebrating valentine’s day. Don’t take the dinner route so early.
Those are just a few tips I have taken from my own experience this valentine’s day with my boyfriend. There will surely be plenty more to come as our cutely awkward relationship continues to stumble along, so stay posted!