hey i just wanted to thank you for your advice on the gay thing from before. i am taking it to eart and i will definately think about it a lot. thanks for taking the time to respond. :)
sure, anytime. it would be really awesome if you stayed in touch with me, even if you wanted to remain anonymous, just so i can know every now and then (or whenever you feel like) how you’re doing and what steps you’ve taken (or haven’t). even though i don’t know who you are (i mean, as far as i know i may know you personally or i may not, but i’m saying this as far as the anonymous label goes & knowing your name) i know what it’s like to have to deal with this and i really, really care about you and want to be supportive for you. so if you can’t talk to me about this in person/personally (even though i’m all for that a billion percent and would keep everything completely confidential between us, i swear it), which i totally can respect, then i would still love to know how you’re doing and help you or advise you in whatever ways i can :)
where harry potter and hermione granger go rogue and join the dark side of the wizarding world, using their knowledge and power and courage to wreak havoc and get what they want. (this dream series has gone on so long now, like a year or so, that it’s developed into multiple seasons like those tv boxsets nobody ever buys)
and their code names—because when you’re evil, of course you need code names, i mean look at lord voldemort, come on—are harry slaughter and hermione danger. yeeeah.
what about ron you say? no, he was killed in the first dream. whoops.
“You say that you love rain, but you open your umbrella when it rains. You say that you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot when the sun shines. You say that you love the wind, but you close your windows when wind blows. This is why I am afraid, you say that you love me too.”—William Shakespeare (via crimsun)
If you can correctly pronounce every word in this poem, you will be speaking English better than 90% of the native English speakers in the world. After trying the verses, a Frenchman said he'd prefer six months of hard labour to reading six lines aloud. Try them yourself.
what are some streamline things that you will look for in a guy?
i’m not sure what you mean by “streamline.” but what i look for in a guy is someone who listens and shows that they care just in how they act. in no way am i saying i would want a guy who “treats me like a princess”; i think that’s impractical and selfish. i just want a guy who will be there for me, and who i can be there for; i want a relationship with mutual dependence, where we both lean on each other and care deeply about each other and want to spend as much time in person/texting/talking with each other as possible. i want a best friend—and we all know what the general ideas of what you look for in a best friend—who just so happens to love me, and who i can love in return.
i have a question for you miss - what should i do if were unsure of my sexuality. (me possibly liking guys) i feel like its kind of weird but i also feel like its right. i havent done anything yet because i want to be sure. any thoughts, commets, sugestions?
if you go to my school, join our five points/diversity club for starters. a gsa is in the works or at least a discussion of such issues, so that might give you a place to contemplate this and open your mind up to what’s really going on in your head and heart. okay, first things first. it may “feel” kind of weird, i know the feeling, but there is nothing weird about it. “weird” is a put-down kind of word, and i don’t think you should approach being gay in that way. if you truly feel like it’s right, then it certainly isn’t “weird”—it’s who you are. as for you saying you “haven’t done anything yet” are you referring to experimentation or to coming out or what? because i definitely don’t think you should come out to anyone until you are more sure of yourself and more sure that this really is how you feel. if that phrase of yours refers to not having done any experimentation, i know a ton of “straight” guys who have experimented. finding a person/guy to experiment with really is not hard, and i recommend it. or maybe you need to experiment with a girl to decide that’s not what you’re into instead of experimenting with guys to decide that that is. but i recommend doing both. that’s the way to decide how you really feel; i know there are people who know they’re gay without ever having dated or been physical with the opposite sex, so experimentation is up to you on whether or not you want to do it, but i think it’s a good idea. it’s the most honest way to find out about yourself, considering how it’s the most honest test to see who or what you’re turned on by. the fact that your attraction to guys you describe as being what feels right really makes it sound to me like you are more sure of your sexuality, at least subconsciously or emotionally whether or not you are openly comfortable with it, than you start this question saying you are. i also recommend, as stupid as it sounds, making a list of celebrities you find emotionally/physically attractive—are they mostly guys? all guys? i mean, you may put a female celebrity on there, but are you sure you would want to be physical with her or is she just someone you respect and admire? if you become confident that you truly are gay, feel free to talk to me whenever, and i recommend using tumblr, trevorspace, a community lgbt socialization group (if you can get yourself there without having to tell anyone where you’re going), or something along those lines to find yourself a relationship (even if just a very light one, like a tumblr long-distance relationship or whatever) with a guy before coming out to anyone if you decide you want to come out; that way, instead of having to find the right time to pronounce “hey, i’m gay” you can just slip into conversation somewhere “my boyfriend is on that club at his school, too” or something like that where it’s subtle but obviously given away—that’s probably a more comfortable way to start that conversation. the first person i talked to was someone from my church—dumb idea. don’t do that. they aren’t particularly tolerant, obviously. don’t come out to your parents first, come out to a teacher (seriously, it sounds like a bad idea, but it’s not) or a really close friend you can trust. practice coming out by coming out to people on tumblr—there are people on here all the time asking for tumblr users to anonymously submit their “biggest secret” or to just talk to them or ask them for advice, so you can practice what you’re going to say by coming out to various people on here who you won’t have to see in real life. i might come back to this question and add more thoughts of mine later, but consider this for starters. i hope this helps at least a little, and if not, i’m really sorry, but you can still talk to me about it whenever the heck you want. seriously. again, i’ll try adding more tips and stuff later tonight. i’m not entirely sure of my sexuality yet either, so we’re on the same journey here, and i can’t say my own hasn’t been rough or completed. so what i’m offering here as far as advice goes is really actually relevant to the both of us—-i did the list thing, i watched youtube videos and came out to a lot of people on tumblr, didn’t really experiment much but i regret that—so while i can’t promise the best results, i can promise my complete honesty and best efforts in helping you. i am so glad you came to me, and i actually feel like this is something we can go through together if you let us.
people who talk to me JUST to get homework help or ask a question about an assignment. you hurt and disgust me.
i’m more than an encyclopedia and more than a planner book.
i’m a person. treat me like it. don’t expect me to want to do shit for you or give you any homework/assignment help when the ONLY time you decide to get buddy-buddy with me is when you need to ask me a class/assignment-related question. i’m not stupid, and i’m not emotionless. i get people who talk to me every day but ONLY to get a question answered about homework. i’m over that shit. keep asking me questions, and i’ll give you BS answers, because i’m over being treated that way. It only contributes further to my feeling lonely/unwanted.
i refuse to be used and stepped on. people are getting upset because i’ve been bitter today whenever anyone has asked me for a homework question. yeah, i’m BITTER because that’s the only fucking time i EVER get your attention. again, i’m MORE THAN THAT. i am not just a reference guide, i’m a person, so treat me like it.
13) 3 (but i’m going to list 4) things i want to achieve in 2011:
a) get a girlfriend (even though my relationships with both gfs i’ve had this year have ended)
b) get a boyfriend (i’m not keeping my hopes up for this one. i did date one guy but we broke up after 5 months in may)
c) get into [a good] college (ha. not even close yet.)
d) get at or above 2100 on the SAT (but i’m probably going to take it again in october anyway just to see what happens)
17) something you worry about a lot: being accepted (not fitting in, but being accepted. there’s a difference), being heard, and diabetic complications (going blind, getting amputated, etc.). again, i know it only asked for one thing, but i worry about all three pretty equally.
Rumor has it the show 30 Rock will address actor Tracy Morgan’s recent homophobic rant in an upcoming episode. Morgan is a star of the show and many of his costars, including Tina Fey, have spoken out about his mistake.
Nobody has confirmed anything yet, but Fey said this is the kind of incident they would include even if Morgan wasn’t the person involved.
What do you think of this? On the one hand, 30 Rock has a huge viewership and could be a perfect place to discuss LGBT issues, including homophobia. On the other hand, this gives way a bit easily to mocking Morgan’s rant and making light of it, essentially taking away from its severity. I’m torn.
^ as for the last paragraph, i agree. i’m torn. it could either be a really good way to publicly address an important issue and get the word out, or it could be a really easy way for the serious nature of the issue to be turned into a passive, mocking joke. what do you think?